Mrs Werner and Mr Werner wanted to get married after their engagement in May 2018. In their young and naïve love they thought „How hard can it be?“ Knowing that some obstacles are coming they were unaware of what actually would follow… So come along for the ride.
In November of 2018 we started to prepare for our wedding and check what is needed in order to get married as an Indian & German couple in Germany.
Why is it a problem
Let us first dive into, why it is a problem to get married as Indian and German in Germany. Even though both countries are part of the Hague convention, there was a lot of problematic history when it comes specifically to marriage certificates from India in Germany.
The Hague convention abolished the need to verify documents in all countries that are parties in The Hague convention. It was founded in 1961 in order to enable citizens of these countries to easier take care of legal matters within another country and foster global mobility.
Basically, there are two options to accomplish this.
The „easy“ solution: Getting married in Denmark
The first and easier solution is to get married in Denmark. Here the laws have changed in 2018 / 2019 but nevertheless it still is possible to get married there.
Why does this work?
Basically, Denmark trusts India and its people with their marriage status, Germany does not trust India in this case.
But as Germany trusts Denmark, Denmark basically acts as a middleman for you and the marriage certificate. It is a little bit of a logic loophole, but it works nevertheless due to the way of how marriages are validated between countries of the European Union.
In order to do so, you need to choose a community in which you want to get married, for most couples this is Copenhagen as it is easy to reach via airplane and the registry office provides you with witnesses if needed.
The whole process of applying for a license to get married is online and available in multiple languages, as the danish people speak a variety of international languages.
Then you have to provide scans of all passports to the family department of Denmark itself. In addition, you have to fill a questionnaire with some information that are needed to get married, this is nothing to fancy and should only take a few minutes to do.
Before 2019 it used to be that only the city, i.e. of Copenhagen, needed to see all documents. Due to the amount of fraud that happened this has changed by now.
A fee will be charged to you upfront, this is for the permission to get married in Denmark and the community of your choice.
After around two weeks (maximum two months) you will get an electronic document that allows for the registration with a registry office.
Here another fee will be charged, but this is just the normal fee for getting married which all couples in Denmark have to pay to get married.
You need to be in Denmark and show your papers two days before the wedding is supposed to be happening. This is also another reason to choose Copenhagen: you can explore the city for these two days.
On the day of the wedding itself you either need to have your own witnesses or you can ask the registry office to provide them for you. This is free of charge and friends of ours who married in Denmark told they were nice people and very patient.
The ceremony itself is in English, as is most communication.
You will get a document that makes you legally married in Denmark and therefore in every country of the European Union.
With this legal document it is then just a formality to register your marriage in Germany in your town hall. This process will take around two weeks and you are legally married in Germany.
The „hard“ solution: Getting married in Germany
Then there is also the other side: Getting married in Germany itself and not going through the danish process.
This process is much harder, but I can assure you that it will just strengthen the bond between you two.
First of all you need quite a lot of documents, which include:
- Passport copies of both partners
- Birth certificates of both partners
- For Germans, please have in mind that there is a new format for the birth certificate which was introduced sometime around 1990. So you might need to reapply for your certificate with your city of birth.
- An affidavit signed that the Indian spouse is not married yet. This affidavit needs to be signed by the parents and in addition it needs to be verified by the Sarpanch (Major) of the city. In addition, it needs to be notarized in India. An example for this you can find at the end of this post.
- For the Indian citizen, a brief history of all the places he/she lived in India, from when to when and documents to support it. For e.g., if you worked in Mumbai for two years, your job contract and the job leaving certificate. The more documents you have, the better it is for your case. Some of these documents you will need to submit in original form, but you will get them back after the process. This basically is a chronology of your life in India before you moved to Germany. This also included the 10th class certificate, so give it to them even if they don’t ask for it.
- All English documents have to be translated by a certified service into German, your local registry office should be able to provide you with contacts. Do not use just any service as anyone who is not certified to do these translations will not be trusted by the government employee and therefore is a waste of money.
- You nevertheless need to provide both languages
- The last three payslips from the Indian spouse, more on that later.
All these documents and a custom letter have to be sent to the German embassy or consult in India depending on the region that you live in. This is done by your local registration office (Standesamt). Here a lawyer will double check everything and provide feedback to the embassy on wether the documents that you have provided are real and indeed the Indian party is not married in India already. You can expect here someone visiting your parents to verify the legitimacy of all the documents and facts you provided.
This letter comes back in both languages.
Afterwards you have to fill with your registry office the normal application for a German marriage and in addition a special form about all the steps that you have taken beforehand and again all documents in both English as well as German.
All of this is then sent to a state level court, here a judge will decide if all the documents are trustworthy or not and finally approve the marriage or not. As mentioned before this approval is needed, as the german government basically does not trust India when it comes to the marriage status.
Time and costs
In terms of time, it took us around six months to get all of the documents and approvals.
This included all shipping times between India and Germany and within Germany.
In terms of costs, you should consider that
- You have to apply for the documents in both countries
- You most likely have to do a trip to India in order to get all the documents
- Pay for the document translation in case they are in English or any Indian language. Only German documents are valid.
- The fee for checking the documents by a lawyer through the German embassy varies based on the state in India where you come from
- The court that ultimately decides on your marriage request charges you based on the salary of the Indian spouse. There is a limit, but this depends on the state in Germany where you want to get married. For us it was around 2 weeks.
- You still need to pay the normal marriage fee that Germany charges anyone to get married
One last thing, which is the icing on the cake, is that you can only get married within six months after the judge allows you to get married. So keep this in mind when starting the process.
If you have not married till then, you need to start from scratch again.
It is the same for a marriage in India
The same process that I explained before is also valid for the case where you get married in India. So you have to still go trough all the steps as long as the spouses have different nationalities.
Our experience was very exhausting but also rewarding once all was done.
Even though it took us six months, getting married in Germany enabled us to have party with all of our friends and family. Something which definitely would have not been possible when getting married in Denmark.We were lucky enough that we had two government employees that were very helpful and understanding. They really put efforts into getting us married and we will never forget them for this.
We hope you enjoyed this video and overview of how to get married. We provided the information based on a German Indian marriage. For most states that are not part of the Hague treaty and / or are not trusted by Germany in terms of marriage certificates the process will be similar.
The languages and documents may vary slightly but overall, it is going to be a similar experience.Once again, we can just recommend taking the route of getting married in Germany. For us the whole process was reassuring that we wanted to get married and „do it right“. The day of the wedding was then even more special for both of us, but this is a story for another day.
Very informative post!
My boyfriend and I went through the same problem last year when we decided to get married. We chose the easier way and are going to Denmark next month.
Thank you and congratulations to you guys 🙂
Congratulations to you too and thank you for your comment.
Did Mrs Werner officially take your name? I’m guessing yes 🙂
How exactly did you do this? I couldn’t find so much information online. All I know is that I cannot change it in Germany before India knows about it, otherwise I will be stateless. Any leads are appreciated 🙂
sorry for the late reply..
Yes she did take my name. This is a process that the local registry office will do for you.
There is not much more that you have to do at this stage or any documents that need to be provided in addition.
If you want to change the name in the Indian passport see this post: https://roamingwerners.com/indian-passport-surname-change-after-marriage-in-germany/
Thank you for the information. It is really helpful. I come from a small town in north India and my gf is german. We don’t have a Sarpanch in our town, as sarpanch is there only in villages. We have a chairman of the municipality.
We are having problems with the affidavit.
If I understand correctly this is an affidavit of the parents verified by the sarpanch and then later notorized. Please correct me if I am wrong.
Do you think it is also possible to get an affidavit from the Sarpanch. As in, the Sarpanch is the first party? Rather than the parents as in the posted affidavit image.
Thanks for all the help.
Thanks for your comment 🙂
Basically the first party should be a trustworthy party as per our understanding. In our case this were the parents of my wife.
I believe that you should also be able to get it from the sarpanch or a comparable role in the city.
Please be aware, that whoever signs the affidavit will potentially also have to answer for the interview that follows later.
We are trying to get an affidavit exactly like you posted. Hopefully it will work.
Thanks a lot for the helpful post.
There are lots of blogs/guides on how to get married in Germany as a foreigner, but not a single one I’ve found before yours specifically for Indian citizen.
Thanks for your sharing, it’s really helpful.
I’d appreciate it so much though, I’d some more information could be heard from you:
1) The verifying/ certifying of all your wife’s document(Birth certificate, marital status) from India, was done by something as called Legalisation, rather than Apostille, right ? And it is a special Legalisation, as those documents first got notarised in India, rather than getting the legalisation from German Mission directly in India, they got sent to Germany first and the legalisation process was initiated by German side actually. ( which later they were sent back to Germany again)
Am I understanding it correctly?
How long this procedure took you guys at that time?
2) In which case or for what documents so far as you understood, that the Indian spouse most likely has do a trip to India, as mentioned in your sharing?
3) How long it took you guys to get the registration certificate for a marriage from the registrar, since the day you both started collecting those document ?
A Chinese girl who has been struggling to get together with her Indian guy who currently resides in Germany in the last three years.
Thank you for your comment.
In regards to your points:
1) This is a bit confusing yes. So the documents are created in India, send to Germany and then the Legalisation is started from Germany and it goes to the state specific embassy and then the documents are being checked.
This process was very long for us with >3 Months, but asking your local registration office (Standesamt) to follow up helps that it is not forgotten, but it won‘t run faster.
2) For none of the documents you have to go. The affidavit has to be written by the parents and the remaining documents can be collected by the Indian embassy responsible for the state in which you are.
3) From when we started and had to learn about the process till the day where we got the exception to get married it took around nine months. From that day you have another six months to get married.
We wish you all the best, in case you have more questions let me know.
All the best,
Thanks for your quick and kind detailed reply.
From what you mentioned in 1), if that verifying process itself takes more than 3 months, shouldn’t it be easily out of valid time then, according to the rules of “all documents should not be more than 5 months till the day of submission”?
As this was exactly what one Indian friend had gone through , by the time his Marital Status got verified it had already been 6 months, it’s already expired…
How did you guys manage it that time…?
2) That so-called “within 6 months”, is it counted from the day you got the marriage registration certificate till the day of marriage/wedding day?
If so, all those documents, birth certificate/marital status etc. they don’t matter anymore as long as you get the marriage registration certificate?
Really appreciate it.
The 6 months period is counted from the day you get the final document after all the verification which allows you to get married.
1. The process of verification doesn’t have a time limit per say. It will take whatever time they need.
2. Once the verification is done and the court gives you the go to get married, you have 6 months to find an appointment and get married.
I hope that helps.
Thank you for all your kind reply.
They do give us better understanding about the .
whole process there.